Thursday, August 20, 2009

Lift Up the Hands Which Hang Down


I really, really enjoyed this week's This American Life, entitled Going Big (click here if you want to check it out). First of all, I love how Ira Glass (or whoever) groups stories into themes each week because there is always a surprise story that fits in with the theme in a way I'd never imagine (this week it's the daughter getting closer to her mother story). The thing I loved this week was the first story about how Geoffrey Canada's Harlem Children's Zone came to be. I just thought it was such sound and innovative thinking, so I'll share the parts that struck me and how I applied them to myself.

First of all, they talk about how the traditional approach to trying to break the cycle of poverty has been tragically flawed (duh). Canada himself noticed that all middle class parents seemed to be totally informed on the latest and most effective parenting techniques, while no one--he means NO ONE-- in Harlem had ever heard of any of them. It was just not part of the culture. He started to research if parenting might be the key.

Some of the research upon which Geoffrey Canada based the Harlem Children's Zone was conducted in the 1980, studying 2 sets of families--one where the parents were professionals and one where the parents were on welfare. Paul Tough explains the findings like this: “The kids with professional parents heard 20 million more words in the first three years of their lives than the kids on welfare…and those extra words had a huge effect on their verbal abilities. It was stunning news that the biggest factor in determining a child’s later success in school wasn’t any of the things we assumed to be true—it wasn’t money, it wasn’t parental education, it wasn’t race—it was the sheer number of words your parents spoke to you as a young child.”

The researcher they (they=Paul Tough) interviewed was James Heckman from the University of Chicago. He's an economist who studies inequality, and his job was to find out why Job Training was not working as a solution to welfare. He found that most disadvantaged people in his study weren't just lacking a skill set valuable to employers.

"Some very basic skills were never learned," he explained. “The ability to communicate, to solve simple mathematical puzzles, to understand even how to read the newspaper, as well as non-cognitive [skills like] self-control, motivation, the ability to get out of bed and show up at work on time, to engage and to be open to new ideas—these traits were in very serious short supply.” This observation led to the question, "How are these skills formed [acquired]?"

The answer was that they are learned at home in the first 3-5 years of life, and then after that it's really hard to teach them or make a change. The good news was that even small early interventions yield huge results. So Geoffrey Canada, trying to help people in Harlem, made the decision to stop trying to help the kids by helping the parents, and just focus on the kids from birth all the way to college. The basic philosophy is that the parents (even in they're still teenagers) are kinda beyond the point of making these fundamental changes, but they can learn how to parent (the way middle-class families automatically do) and their children are successful.

The story ends like this:

“Although Geoff is committed to his choice—save the kids rather than the parents—it still involves some painful trade-offs for him," said Paul Tough. It's tempting to want to help the parents, too, but Canada knows that the program works when everyone is focused on the kids.

“I am always surprised by how easy it is. It’s is not like decoding the human genome…it takes people to really focus and concentrate. And I am always stunned—how is it no one knows this? The reason it seems so difficult is that so few people have learned to actually DO it.” –Geoffrey Canada

“All the experts I interviewed for this story told me the same thing. It’s much easier than people think. And so far, the experiment is working.” -Paul Tough

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So you know I am a "hand-up, not a hand-out" person and I have been pondering what I can do to contribute to the community next year when James starts preschool and I start to have more and more time that is not filled with mom-stuff. This show helped me decide.

1-Keep serving in the church: All those skills that Heckman mentioned are learned as we live the gospel and participate in church programs. I kept thinking of all the things we can learn as we participate in the Primary program, Personal Progress program for Young Women, or in scouting. These programs, while part of the church, are available and beneficial to everyone and I should invite the kids we interact to participate. It also reinforces to me that spending my time and talents on these programs is a worthwhile investment for my whole community, not just my church family.
Doctrine & Covenants 81:5-"...succor the weak, lift up the hands which hang down, and strengthen the feeble knees..."

2-Participate in more early childhood programs: I think I would like to get some training and certification from the state to do more early childhood work once my kids are in school. It really is an investment in the future--the best community investment, as far as I am concerned.

PS: Next month is my birthday and Paul Tough's book, Whatever It Takes has shot to the top of my wish list. I'm just sayin'.

THANKS 4 the THANKS!

Dear Winsors, We got your note today and it was such a treat! We really enjoyed your artwork, Boston! Heidi wants to know how Alex is doing...I'll have her write him a letter next ;) Love and miss you guys!

Love, Los Melins

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Wednesday: Museum of the Rockies

One last summer trip to M.O.R....
Where the Wild Things Are! James playing dino-boy
Dino-girls
They roared their terrible roar and gnashed their terrible teeth...
We had a fun day (with lunch at Burger King). Addie is having a sleep-over with Grandma Melin tonight, and tomorrow is Heidi's turn. One more week til we're back-to-school...



Monday: Pine Creek Play Day

My friend Debbie has a tradition with her kids where they camp for 4 or 5 days right before school starts for one last summer HURRAH! They have other plans this year (since all but one of her kids is a nearly-grown teenager), but we still had a play day/ picnic up at Pine Creek on Monday.
Jenny, Haylee, Rosalie, Terin, Danny, Cassidy, Heidi, and Addie walking toward the creek
Jenny, Cassidy, Haylee, and Terin (beeeeehiiiiiives!)
Heidi feels the icy-cold creek water

James and Rosalie join in
Shoes on the creek bank
Danny and Addie at the creek
Heidi, Debbie, Hannah, Me, and James just chillin'

Me & my cutie-midgey-niece, Hannah

Heidi & Aunt Debbie=Best Pals

Heidi, James, and Hannah coloring on the picnic blanket
Heidi
Rosalie, Addie, & Danny checking out some butterflies
Addie & Danny in the woods
PEEK-A-BOO!
Aunt Debbie sent the kids on a fun treasure hunt (for tootsie pops!)
James and Hannah opted out of the treasure hunt cuz they were too tired!
They had a drink and watched a Thomas DVD instead.
Addie enjoying her sucker
Danny relaxing in Aunt Debbie's hammock
Addie & Danny got the life...
Debbie & Heidi
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On the way home, we encountered a
Montana Roadblock...
(don't mind my nice cracked windshield)
I took this out the passenger side door...how now, brown cow?
Around the bend we found another roadblock, this time with horses.
(this is the ledge where Rich & I were engaged, BTW)
This is the last switchback coming down Pine Creek road...
the ranch is in the distance there...
I love Paradise Valley!

Too Cute to be a Pirate

These photos were taken at our Pirate FHE last week,
but I forgot to post them!
This is my terribly adorable niece, Lexi Melin:
aka: "She-Jay"
(that's what Angie was calling her because she looks exactly like her older brother, TJay. :))
Way Too Cute!

Monday, August 17, 2009

More Sunday Photos

Melin Kids out on Clyde Park Road
Sunday, August 16th
















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Also, yesterday marked the one-year anniversary since the Nielson's plane crash in St. John's, AZ. Stephanie (who lives in Provo now) marked the anniversary by hiking to the "Y." She also found the courage to post a photo of her new face on her blog. It's all just so miraculous...really! Who survives severe burns on 80% of their body and then climbs a mountain a year later? There are SO MANY miracles all around us that we don't recognize with out hindsight because we take our challenges day-by-day. But love is all around--God is all around, and our lives, our children, our health are all gorgeous miracles.

FAMILY LETTER 07.28.19

Dear Loved Ones,                                                                                                        We have just ...